Skip the small talk (part IV and last)

This is the original post:

https://lamaalrajih.com/2019/07/24/skip-the-small-talk-part-one/

And here are my answers —I’m not skipping any.

  • What small gesture from a stranger made a big impact on you?

You mean good gesture, I believe, a random act of kindness, I assume, and of course and luckily I’ve experienced some of them, but honestly I don’t remember any in particular, so I assume none made a big impact on me.

Big impact is made by the bad gestures, and these don’t use to be random and they usually come from no strangers. I remember the first time I got used by a friend, wretchedly used as an object in a small situation. Role models are fine, but anti-role ones are definitely needed.

  • If you had a clock that would countdown to any one event of your choosing, what event would you want it to count down?

My son’s come of age.

  • What are three of the most significant numbers in your life?

I’m puzzled here… Am I supposed to have significant numbers in my life? Well, yeah. Two I know: 1966, 2002. The other one is yet to come and a little bit annoying…

  • Which of your personality traits has been the most useful?

I have a quick eye for bullshit and little patience with it —that’s been useful to me.

I can see through most of people (not all), know how they’re feeling and why, why they’re acting out the way they are, for reasons that are obvious to me but hidden to them —that’s been useful to them, without knowing.

  • Imagine you have a closet full of robots at the ready. Which of your various obligations would you assign to a robot? Which tasks and activities would you keep to yourself, because you enjoy them too much to delegate them to even a robot who is better than you?

Assign: do the shopping, do the cooking, clear the table, clean the windows, drive the car

Keep: drive the motorbike, do the chores other than the damned windows (but not by the because), file my files.

  • What is the best measurement of how an idea is absorbed into culture?

The way it’s misunderstood, misapplied, grossly abused and put to serve spurious ends.

  • Do you think you’re undervalued as a person? If so, why?

No, I don’t think so. But I lack the virtue, when done well, of selling your own achievements. If I understand them as that at all.

  • Why are some people so addictive?

So addictive, what do you mean? Perfidiously addictive, like narcissists with a pound of psychopathy, or respectable leaders of whatever ideology that want you to feel part of a something larger than your miserable egotistic self by surrendering it to them, in flesh and blood and money and spirit? Harmlessly addictive, because they’re bright and deep and broad in their knowledge, or good, or funny, or calmed and silent and have no urge of directing you? Stupidly addictive, where the stupid is you because you know you’re wasting your time there but won’t go?

C’mon Lama, be more precise…

  • What color best describes your personality?

This one’s easy for the last one —blue.

Skip the small talk (part III)

This is the original post:

https://lamaalrajih.com/2019/07/24/skip-the-small-talk-part-one/

And here are my answers —I’m not skipping any.

  • What is the most significant thing you’ve changed your mind on in the last year? Why did you change your mind about it?

I’ve realized that freedom means very little to most people… That the more lip service it gets, the more dispensable it is. Truly liberty lovers are, and always will be, alienated. People don’t give a damn about liberty. But I read Jonathan Livingston Seagull as a teenager I should’ve known better.

  • Which fictional character would be the most boring to meet in real life?

Gatsby.

  • What’s the closest thing to real magic?

Define real magic.

I think the closest is the Thomas Theorem,

If people define situations as real, they are real in their consequences.

  • If you could know the absolute and total truth to one question, what question would you ask?

Is global warming man-made, or women-made?

No, seriously. Am I gonna die, really?

  • Which question can you ask to find out the most about a person?

Do you miss your father? Did your mother let you go?

(sorry, two questions)

  • What do you want your epitaph to be?

He he, if I just might borrow from someone I know’s list…

Best epitaph ever is that of that poet Neruda, Confieso que he vivido.

Own’s favourite is Lie no more, and forever.

  • There are two types of people in this world. What are the two types?

Intelligent and dumb.

  • What is something you are certain you’ll never experience?

Menage a troi, I’m afraid…

  • Who is/was your most interesting friend?

TF was very interesting as a brainless youngster —but he’s quite boring now that he’s respectable (I think I should add an emoticon here, ;-) for what it’s worth…

JC used to be more interesting as well when he was a beacon of individualism in a world of ideological idiots (that was me). He’s quite high these days in esoterism, which always detracts from interestingness.

JG comitted a fatal mistake when he dropped the linux console for the mac of no-rain… He matured.

Can you spot the trend here?

Nope —I’ve got merit, I’ve been a bore my whole life…

[To be continued]

Skip the small talk (part II)

This is the original post:

https://lamaalrajih.com/2019/07/24/skip-the-small-talk-part-one/

And here are my answers —I’m not skipping any.

  • What simple thing still blows your mind?

That the whole of human knowledge is reenacted in every generation.

  • What sparked your curiosity in whatever you’re most curious about now?

Nowadays, I’m most curious about how it is that we’re consciously and deliberately abandoning the main ideas whose historically painful putting into action made us free and prosperous —that men and women are equal in law and in human dignity; that you’re responsible for your actions, but only for yours; that everyone is innocent until proved guilty; and that freedom of expression is the ultimate right, along with the right to provide for oneself, that may keep us away from tyranny.

What sparked my curiosity about that, you bet.

  • What’s the most useful concept you have that doesn’t have a name?

You don’t allow yourself to lie, so that you’d better do the right thing now or then you’ll have no easy escape afterwards. It’s kind of methodological, self-protecting use of truth.

  • What’s something you believe but can’t defend?

I believe you have the right, even the moral duty, of taking care yourself at avenging any wrongdoings you or your loved ones have been victims of. I wouldn’t defend that idea, though —mediated, indirect, organized, institutional justice is a far much better way to handle that —for all its shortcomings, that are not few.

  • What taste do you have that most people don’t have, where does it come from, and how has it helped you?

Taste… I don’t know what you mean by taste here. I’ll take it as inclination or state of mind or trait of character… The most useful for me is that I don’t pretend. I know fairly well what I’m worth, and don’t feel any need to try to pass for what I’m not or make believe that I know what I don’t. That’s a big release —people put a lot of mental and practical effort in disguising their true selves or conceal their shortcomings. Not having to do that saves me time and trouble, makes me less dependent on other people’s opinions, lets me focus on my agenda, and makes me know them better.

  • What is your most radical belief?

That what I do, or don’t do, what I think or don’t think, is none of your business.

EDIT.

That you owe me nothing, and that I owe you nothing.

  • Do you think it’s more important to follow the “written” rules or the “unwritten” rules? What is one unwritten rule that you’ve learned?

The unwritten, of course. Also, it’s more important to break the latter than the former, if rules must be broken.

One unwritten rule that I’ve learned? But there are hundreds of them, you can’t become a functional adult without learning them, starting as a toddler.

Well, one of my favorites, one that’s increasingly under attack, that they try to undermine because it detracts highly from the absolute power they want, is that you don’t snitch.

[To be continued]

Skip the small talk (part one)

This is the original post:

https://lamaalrajih.com/2019/07/24/skip-the-small-talk-part-one/

And here are my answers —I’m not skipping any.

  • If you were going to be frozen tomorrow for a one-way 1000-year interstellar voyage, what would you most want to communicate (and to whom) before you leave?

I assume voyage like death and leaving as dying. Whom is obvious: my wife and my son. What: Mourn me for a month most; from then on, I’ll be watching you, and every time you smile, laugh, enjoy, or achieve I’ll beatifically smile in comfort and joy —you’re happy, I’m happy; you’re not, I’m not.

  • What do you think you’re most likely to regret on your deathbed?

As the song goes, “Regrets, I’ve had a few, but then again, too few to mention”…  No, no, or yes. What first comes to my mind when thinking about this are paths in life that I’ve not taken, but you can’t never regret that —life is choosing, and all that could’ve happened is imaginary. Decisions are not regrettable —wrongdoings are, and mistakes sometimes. What have I done wrong, then, that I’ll regret on my deathbed, or what mistakes have I made that I did because of laziness in action or thought?

My biggest mistake, I think, is having been complacent in regard with my way of life, taking for granted that my job was stable enough and my income good enough to provide for myself and my family, and that everything else would be guaranteed and provided by the state.

  • What do you miss most about your past that could be recreated today?

Nothing can be recreated.

  • What’s the most important thing to remember daily that you haven’t been able to?

That you cannot change people.

  • What help could you most use that you haven’t asked for?

Please don’t talk to me or when I’m around about illness, symptoms, pains, conditions, sensations, afflictions, operations, wounds, infections, syndromes, epidemics, pandemics, fevers, procedures, blood tests and results.

  • What is your one piece of advice to everyone here?

Beach, fun, sun, and peace of mind.

  • What was the last thing you fell in love with?

My bicycle.

  • When was the last time you felt unbounded optimism?

Unbounded, never. Optimism, I felt optimistic about my chances of finishing it when I started my degree in Mathematics at a very late age —it proved wrong.

  • Who was the last person you felt inspired by?

Toni the waiter at the Bar Espanya (antic Can Vinagre) who speaks so loudly to clients that I can hear him all the time —in the eighteen years I’ve been living in my house now I’ve never heard him complain, swear, not to say hello to people, not to greet children with fanfare; he works plenty and well; he’s a happy and contented man, a daily inspiration for me truly.

[to be continued]