My collection (Part 2 of 82)

The Beatles, Act Naturally
Los Ronaldos, Adiós papá

I left home rather precariously and not with my parents’ approval, so I was surprised and grateful at my father’s giving me a modest quantity of money to let me have a start —a money he certainly wasn’t at all in excess of.

In fact, I must say I’m more grateful now than I was at the time. But I’ve been stupid for a long time in my youth and later, so that’s self-explaining.

Those were (from June 1989 to February 1991) hard times for us, in regard to money. And some time after, as well.

Supertramp, Ain’t Nobody But Me

… gonna lie for you, gonna die for you

Ain’t no fish in the sea,

gonna sigh for you, gonna try for you

Then, many years later the person who made those words actual was born.

Dick Hyman & Howard Alden, All of Me / The Peanut Vendor
Maria Dolores Pradera, Amarraditos

October 20th to 28th

Immanent contentment

The formula for Montaignean immanent contentment is moderation through variation: an arrangement of our dispositions, our pursuits, and our pleasures that is calculated to keep us interested, ‘at home’, and present in the moment but also dispassionate, at ease, and in balance.

(Why We Are Restless, by Benjamin and Jenna Silber Storey)

Walking again

I’ve started walking to and from work —7.4 km round plus 3 km at break time make more than 10 km work-daily —not bad.

Misandry —you didn’t know the word, did you?

No, of course not, what do you think I am?

Misoginy’s the talk of the town, but misandry’s all the rage’ (comment by Garth Wood at Marginal Revolution).

Now Reading — The Art of War, by Sun Tzu

All warfare is based on deception.

Though we have heard of stupid haste in war, cleverness has never been seen associated with long delays.

He will win who, prepared himself, waits to take the enemy unprepared.

Do not repeat the tactics that have gained you one victory, but let your methods be regulated by the infinite variety of circumstances.

When you surround an army, leave an outlet free. Do not press a desperate foe too hard.

Social Economics

If peer pressure and other forms of social capital have enormous power over choices, it becomes much more important to make wise decisions in selecting peers and other determinants of such capital. —Gary Becker & Kevin Murphy, Social Economics.

Now Reading — The Art of War, by Sun Tzu

In a desperate position, you must fight.

There are roads that must not be followed, armies that must not be attacked, towns that must not be besieged, positions that must not be contested, commands of the sovereign that must not be obeyed.

There are five dangerous faults that may affect a general: (1) Recklessness, which leads to destruction; (2) cowardice, which leads to capture; (3) a nasty temper, which can be provoked by insults; (4) a delicacy of honor that is sensitive to shame; (5) over solicitude for his men, which exposes him to worry and trouble.

Nuestra vida

La conciencia reflexiva nos ofrece lo que denominamos nuestra vida: la suma de todo lo que hemos oído, visto, sentido, esperado y sufrido desde el nacimiento hasta la muerte. —Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow.

La experiencia intrínsecamente gratificante

Cuando la experiencia es intrínsecamente gratificante, la vida está justificada en su presente, en vez de ser el rehén de un hipotético beneficio futuro. —Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Flow.

Now Reading —El conflicto social moderno, by Ralph Dahrendorf (1988)

El primer ciudadano es el varón libre de la Atenas del siglo V aC. Con todas sus limitaciones, tuvo que pasar mucho tiempo antes de que alguna nación moderna se aproximara a este ideal.

Las sociedades modernas se exponen a tres riesgos políticos:

  1. La versión absoluta del liderato: la autocracia
  2. La versión absoluta de la administración: la burocracia
  3. La versión absoluta de la participación: la democracia

Un rey preguntó

Un rey preguntó a un hombre santo: «¿Te acuerdas de mí?». El hombre santo contestó: «Sí, pienso en ti cuando me olvido de Dios». Muslih-ud-din Saadi.

A flame

A flame is a stream of hot gas.

He felt the urge

On my way to work today, October 28th, I’ve seen, at 7:40 in the morning, in Palma, Mallorca, Spain, at a temperature of 20°C, a man who had stopped and parked his car in the gutter of a heavy-traffic road just to fill up the antifreeze container with its corresponding antifreeze fluid.

He must’ve felt the urge to.


October 16th and 18th

Now Reading — I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me, by Jerold J. Kleiman & Hal Straus

BPD is the only medical diagnosis partially defined by self-injuring behavior. Self-mutilation—except when clearly associated with psychosis—is a hallmark of BPD. This behavior may take the form of self-inflicted wounds to the genitals, limbs, or torso. For these borderline patients, the body becomes a road map highlighted with a lifetime tour of self-inflicted scars.

The self-inflicted pain may reflect the need to feel, to escape an encapsulating numbness.

Ideological-prejudiced energy foolishness

The world will regret not having gone nuclear and still not being willing to.

At least they found it

Hate crimes is the leftist equivalent to the rightist defense of morality and tradition. Both are a powerful instrument to squash dissent and personal freedom. Kudos to the new left for having come up with such terrific construct —your average totalitarian’s dream made true.

It makes sense

‘En Mallorca, robar un coche no sale a cuenta; otra cosa es que me digas Madrid o Barcelona”.

[Overheard at that particular café in Son Castelló where disreputable-looking people peacefully gather around street tables with upholstered chairs while having some hot beverage or another].

Now Reading — Why We Are Restless, by Benjamin and Jenna Silber Storey

As Blaise Pascal pointed out long ago, even the fortunate can be unhappy. And their unhappiness can be particularly persistent, for when people seem to have solid reasons for feeling better than they do, they often believe themselves obliged to let their unhappiness go unexamined.

Prayers

This dinner prayer I found it online, liked it and adapted it a little, resulting in this:

For food that stays our hunger,
For rest that brings us ease,
For homes where the loved ones live,
We give you, O Lord, our thanks for these.
In a world where so many are hungry,
May we eat this food with humble hearts. Amen.

Somehow, though, I keep on stumbling at it when I say it out loud. So, I decided to make a Spanish version, which would go like this:

Por esta comida que nos quita el hambre,
por el descanso que nos proporciona este momento,
por la presencia en la mesa de nuestros seres queridos,
te damos las gracias, Señor, humildemente. Amén.

The problem is, not having a religious family or friends, I only say this prayer when I eat alone. So, a further adaptation is:

Por esta comida que me quita el hambre,
por el descanso que me proporciona este momento,
por la gracia de querer y ser querido,
te doy las gracias, Señor, humildemente. Amén.

Speaking of prayers, don’t forget the one you learnt from Yentl, the film:

Hear me, Oh Lord, master of the Universe, thou hast given me a son, who brings me great pride, and pleasure. And for this kindness, I thank thee forever and ever.

And the oldest, not yet surpassed in meaning, conciseness, essence, and compromise. Read it fresh:

Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as in heaven.
Give us today our daily bread.
Forgive us our sins
as we forgive those who sin against us.
Save us from the time of trial
and deliver us from evil. Amen.
Padre nuestro que estás en los cielos, 
santificado sea tu nombre;
venga a nosotros tu reino;
hágase tu voluntad 
así en la tierra como en el cielo.
El pan nuestro de cada día dánosle hoy;
perdónanos nuestras deudas,
así como nosotros perdonamos a nuestros deudores;
no nos dejes caer en la tentación,
y líbranos del mal. Amén.  

Enjoy the aftertaste

There’s a film that’s not bad, Dragged Across Concrete (2018) – IMDb —and Mel Gibson is outstanding in his role. Two cops are mounting guard in their car. One of them (Vince Vaughn) is taking ages at finishing his meal, but when the other one (Mel Gibson) gets (understandably) mad at him for doing so, he says that’s the right way of eating —you’re ruining it if you take your next morsel before the aftertaste for the previous one is gone.

I’m guilty of that. M. told me once I walk so fast through the countryside that I can’t and don’t enjoy the scenery, and he’s right. The same with food —I tend to gulp it down, without concern for the aftertaste. That’s a mistake I’ll intend to mend.

[Spoiler next]

Good play of some version of the prisoner’s dilemma —if he (Gibson) had only taken Tory Kittles’ word for what was worth and shaken hands with him instead of putting a gun on his temple…

12th and 13th

Oct 12, 2021

Phone calls

Called M. from the top of the Mirador de Ses Barques, but he didn’t answer the phone. Why should I do such an unusual thing, a thing so un-me, as to videocall him? Well, he phoned yesterday in his usual style —I call, you do the talking, I show absolute no excitement for anything. When I told him that wasn’t the way to call, he said, Well, you don’t ever call me, do you? And that’s true. So I decided to start calling him, the right way —with something good and lively to tell, briefly, and not at some usual time or another, so he a) can get some satisfaction, hopefully, and b) learn by example and imitation to make good phone calls. But he didn’t answer the phone, so I guess all it’s been to no avail.

Field trip to Mirador de Ses Barques

I took a carrot with me and eat it —and the humble, low-caloric piece made its work very well and let me get back my previously wasted energy. Carrots have gained their way to my food pyramid.

Really nice paths there.

Watched Take Shelter (2011) – IMDb

Directed by Jeff Nichols. Schizophrenia —interesting and terrifying. Curious how another (better) film, All the Bright Places (2020) – IMDb, dealing in the maniac-depressive illness, got me interested in psychiatric disorders, so I read An Unquiet Mind, by Kay Redfield Jamison. That led to the one I’m reading right now, I Hate You —Don’t Leave Me, by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus, about the BDI (Borderline Personality Disorder).

Aromatherapy

Alan Watts has it right —smell is the most neglected sense, notwithstanding the fact that its effects are powerful, not the least reason of it because they tend to be unconscious. So I thought that you could try some kind of Pavlovian classical conditioning, by way of associating a particular smell to a state of wellbeing, and then use the smell to provoke the good feeling. I think it particularly useful when applied at home with small children —a pity I didn’t think of it when bringing up M. Anyway, I’m interested now so I’ll look into it —better late than never.

Oct 13, 2021

An occurrence

Si estás un poco mal, estás mejor que si estás muy bien.

Driving notes

I learnt two things through M.’s studying the circulation code in order to get his license. First, that you have a whole two minutes to park the car before you’re sent off, with no limit in the number of maneuvers you can do. Should had I known it earlier, I’d had spared myself a lot of trouble. Now, when I have one of those days when you simply aren’t inspired enough to insert the car inline when the distance allowed is less than half a meter longer than the length of your car, and you’re blocking their way to other cars, I can easily get out and explain to the nice driver behind that I think I’ll make ample use of my two minutes’ time and my limitless number of maneuvers, thank you.

Second, the rearview mirror located at the right isn’t compulsory. Since I learnt that, I’ve been having less and less use of that particular gadget. I’ve adjusted my central rearwiew mirror to point rightwards, so that I have that side covered. Of course, you lose depth in your straight rear vision, but it’s not really important to notice cars far away behind. This new disposition, I find it helps me not to get my eyes off the road ahead. And then I can use the right rearview for what it’s really worth —to help you park your car inline on the spot in time and form.

My new wristwatch

I’ve got a new wristwatch. Not beautiful like my previous one was, but very nice indeed, blue-faced with no printed numbers, with little marks signaling the minutes and big marks at the multiples of five, its sphere encased in a metallic bezel and held by an equally metallic chain. Too heavy (100 g), of course, and cheaply made —someday I’ll have a wristwatch in which the seconds hand will always, always lie exactly upon its mark (not half a millimeter before or after) for a second, before going to the next one and lying exactly upon its mark; I promise.